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Yesterday I wrote an email. It’s subject line ”I’m a selfish bitch”. And it got a bit reaction. I have copied and pasted below.

The Selfish Bitch Email

Hey, today I feel refreshed, energized, taking on the world…

This is how I don’t feel most of the time.  You want to know the truth?

I always feel tired, alone and like a bitchy superwoman. {Mostly tired.}

Like, I *love* working.  A lot. For the most part of my day, it is all I’m thinking about. If I’m having a conversation with my boyfriend, I zone out a bit and sometimes have a new idea/solve problem/brain wave of something to do with my business.

Is that bad?

Or I (secretly) wish I wasn’t at that BBQ because I much prefer to be answering emails.

Is that bad?

When I am asked what I am doing on the weekend, I go in depth detail of this launch I have coming up and the action steps I need to get done this weekend.

Is that bad?

While all the above isn’t perfect, here’s the thing.

I’m not perfect.

So, right here, right now, I am going to claim it.

I am a selfish bitch! 

{And I am okay with that.   Maybe that is worse that I am okay with that!}

And I need to be a freaking bitch about my time to get s**t done.  Otherwise it don’t get done!

I am sick of pretending I am perfect superwoman, when I am not.

I am not perfect.  I do not have it all together.  I don’t get everything done in a day/week/month.  But I give it a really good crack!

I freaking love my business.  THIS is what I’m on this planet to do.

I get upset at the thought of ‘giving up’ or slowing down.  I just can’t.  That’s ‘rubs’ against my soul to be wrong.

I can only trust my intuition.  And work hard.

No more.  No less.

And you … well, I know you’re a little crazy, and fun like me.  Cause we love our business. We wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

I wrote that email in a moment of weakness. Sick and tired of being tired. Of fucking chasing my tail and trying so damn hard and sacrificing so much! So much! But at the same time completely un-relentless in my goal and vision. This is my damn business and my damn dream and I will freaking not give up!

I journaled it out and realised – that needs to be shared.

 

What Happened After the Selfish Bitch Email

The next 24 hours after I sent that email and shared on social media. What happened & the responses, well it shocked me!

I like to call myself Bat Crap Crazy.  I come with some great idea or scheme (usually world cake domination).

And I think about all the reasons why I shouldn’t do it. About the nay-sayers. About the work it would take to set up. And I freak out a little bit.  What am I getting myself in for?

And then I KNOW. BUSINESS is what I am here for. I feel the fear.  And I do it anyway. {Because I am crazy fun like that.}

And that’s what happened this week. 

I wrote an email to my tribe. About how I love business (so freaking much).  That I am constantly thinking about my business and work that needs to be done.

And that work ‘aint gonna get done without me doing it!

I have to get selfish to get shit done. So I claimed my title of Selfish Bitch.  And that I am okay with that.

And I was freaking out a little bit, when I went to press send.  Should I really send it?  And I did…

 

Well, what happened after that was …. Shocking.  Kinda had to be seen to be believed.

I had people on facebook say ”thank you”.

Say ”OMG, I really needed to hear that today”.

And, ”how did you get into my head?”

And, well, my heart swelled and felt so happy that by sharing my truth it resonated with you guys.  That means the world to me.

 

And then this happened…

(Below is a copy and paste of my Facebook status.)

Yesterday I sent out an email with the subject that was a little bit confronting.
I told you that I am a selfish bitch.
I was sick of pretending I was this perfect Super Woman, when I am really not.

I had someone get quite annoyed at the email, that she had to reply and tell me how unimpressed that she found it in her inbox.
That I was wrong to do such wild ‘’marketing tactics’’.
That I am running my business wrong.
Blah. Blah. Blah.
Oh, and she would be unsubscribing.
And you know how I feel about that?

Not. A. Single. Fuck. Was given that day.

Ok, so I got a bit shocked, my jaw dropped (and ‘what the hell’ might have been said out loud.)

But 2 seconds later, my reaction was ‘’YES!’’

You know why? Because when there are haters, there is success. (Haters / nay-sayers / trolls / negative nancies.  Whatever you call them).

Haters come out of the wood work, to pull you down.
Haters want you to KNOW that they are unhappy and that you should be to.
Haters believe that that are right, and no one else is.

Haters are a sign of success.

So, I was excited, ‘’YES!’’ and fist-pumped the air (and I promptly deleted + block + unsubscribed her, myself!) 

I am finding my voice and my truth. I am living my own life. I am sharing my own experience.

And to be damn sure, this is MY business.
And NO ONE tells me how to run my business.

… Someday, you will have a hater. Someone with tall poppy syndrome. Who plans on telling you that you are doing it wrong. 
That you are writing wrong.
That you shouldn’t send emails (or should send different emails).
That your business is a failure.
That your business is sleazy.
That you are wrong and they are right.

So, I want to share with you.

There will be haters.
It will sting a little bit.
That you  will remember to say ‘’YES!’’ because it is a sign of success.

(And then delete + ban + block.)

And the response to this???  (Well, check it out below.)

And this …

Oh, and this …

It was over whelming.

I couldn’t keep up with you guys.

Remember this is YOUR life.  You live it how you see fit.  You are not here to please everyone, only to please the right people – you tribe.

Xx  Remember, this is YOUR sweet business dream.