Advice Wanted: My in-laws don’t ask me ‘how is work going?’ and it is upsetting me.
Since going FT on the blog October last year, no one asks my how my work is. (Except my boyfriend.)
I am finding it really annoying, upsetting and I think it is WEIRD.
When I worked for someone else, people (everyone) would ALWAYS ask ‘how is work going?’ + usually within the first 3 questions of greeting. And now. 6 months of blogging FT and working my buns off. No ‘how is work?’, ‘what’s new with you?’ or even ‘what did you get up to today?’
WHY is that? It is sooooo weird. Do they think I’m doing nothing? That my only value in life is working in a soul-sucking, destroying job when I am told what to do. That I must be watching TV all day, because that is what people do?
That nowadays I spend my time doing something incredible. Amazing. Inspiring. That I’m passionate about. That it is the best fun in the world. That I create magic every single day and create my future, my dreams and destiny.
But in 6 months, not once asking ‘how is work going?’
Is it me, or is that weird? I’m open to advice (and completely cool if you think I’m weird. Comment below.
Update: Since sharing this on March 2nd in some Blogging Facebook groups I had over 150 comments.
I am not alone and if you are reading this – you are not alone. Apparently, this is quite common-place in the blogging, online business, entrepreneur space that a lot of people don’t ‘get it’. Which I get but at the same time, don’t really understand how social norms go out the window. Lucky I don’t really like social norms!
My gran use to say ‘but they don’t know any better’, or ‘that is the way they are bought up’. Today people are bought up in a factory worker and ‘sheep’ or corporate mentality and it is hard to break free from that.
Some advice I was given ”It may be a blessing in disguise! I’ve can felt low after talking to friends and family about my business – especially if they have no idea what it is like to run one. You’ll save yourself from tons of unsolicited advice (everyone thinks they have great ideas for you).”
I’m choosing not to struggle with this anymore.
I have realised that this is my issue and it isn’t for me to put my needs on others. If I have needs, it is my job to fill them. So, if that means I desire to be asked ‘how is work going?’ I go find someone to ask me! Having mastermind or mentoring session helps.
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